Do you want to have a lasting love in your marriage? This is surely the desire of many Christian couples, however, many of their relationships are struggling or collapsing. This article aims to illustrate how to build a lasting love in your marriage.
Love suffers a lot and is kind; love has no envy; Love does not parade, it does not inflate; he does not behave rudely, he does not seek his own, he does not provoke himself, he does not think of evil; he does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; He carries all things, believes all things, expects all things, bears all things. Love never fails. But if there are prophecies, they will fail … – I Corinthians 13: 4-8 (NKJV).
Marriage is a spiritual institution and, therefore, should not be accepted or followed in the flesh, you need God’s help. Marriage is more than a mere “I DO” although it is part of the beginning. It is the union of a woman and a man spirit, soul and body. That’s why if you have sex, which are marriage, with a harlot you become one with her and you reap the consequences, the wrath of God.
For someone to have a lasting love in marriage, you must know LOVE. God is love (I John 4: 8)! How much you know, He determines the duration of your love for your spouse. Your love for God determines how much you will love your spouse. I’m not talking about Eros (love of the body or sexual desire) or Philia (brotherly love), even if you need them in marriage. I am talking about agape love if lasting love is what you want to have in your marriage. It will always pass the test of time. Others can fail but not agape love.
The scriptures in 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 give a description of what the love of God is. This is how to love your spouse, without attached conditions. This is how Jesus loved us, that while we were still sinners, He died for us. God expects us to love our spouses as Jesus loves us. You must love him or her, not because he or she loves you, but essentially because you love God and want to please Him. Otherwise, if you ever think that your spouse does not love you again, you can stop loving him.
In marriage, it is not about what you can get from your spouse or what he or she can give you; It is about what you can give him. Marriage is about what you can contribute to your life. God thought about marriage and instituted it because he felt that something was missing from Adam and he made a meeting of help. Therefore, in marriage you must provide everything that may be missing in your spouse. You should not have him or her provide you with what is missing; That should not be your focus. In order for you to have a lasting love, you must take care of your own share of responsibility and believe that God helps your spouse to do his own part.
The truth is that if you depend on your spouse to make you happy you will be in trouble. He or she does not have the ability to do that. Your happiness and joy are in God. If He fulfills it through his husband or wife, that’s great. But you must choose to depend solely on God for everything in your marriage. Choose to please God all the time and it will always please your spouse, and he or she will reciprocate to you. Jesus, wanting to please God, the Father, was always a blessing to the people.
Also, you can not love and not give. You can give without loving, but there is no way to love and not to give: your time, energy and resources. To give is to live. God showed what it means to love by giving His only Son and there is nothing else that He does not give to you. Therefore, learn to give the best and everything to your spouse.
In conclusion, if you want to have a lasting love in marriage, first know God (who is Love) and obey His instructions, choose to please your spouse, put it first before you and make a lifestyle in your relationship and you will be building a lasting love in your relationship.